content but still striving
Amvets has been the gay bar in town for years, however a very homophobic owner who won't even allow Missoula's only gay news publication to be delivered, ruins the atmosphere and makes the gay community feel not welcome.Though, he won't deny them for it's just more money to pad his wallet. Most of the bartenders are lgbti and very nice, but owner Mike is not.
^Exactly. Dancing with someone at a bar in my opinion has never been a situation where you need to tell someone your medical and/or sexual history or sexual orientation. Green is the only victim here. She is a woman and WAS a woman at the time of the assault. Because she was born with the wrong genitalia, she can't go out to bars like a normal young girl- have fun and dance with others without getting the shit beat out of her? It isn't as if she is parading around trying to trick unknowing men into sleeping with her. This wasn't the behavior of a sexual deviant nor was her behavior provoking- she did absolutely nothing wrong. Speaking hypothetically, this situation could have gone in many ways differently. Say the man was not kissing her roughly and pressuring her and they both consented to go somewhere to get to know each other-. I then believe it would've been in her best interest though not required, but for her own safety- to let him know that she was pre-op. Perhaps he would've been shocked and surprised, but as he had gotten to know her through out the night and genuinely liked her as a person and was not a violent and angry person, than he wouldn't have felt tricked, as she was being honest with him about her situation. Perhaps they decided to go somewhere alone and she didn't tell the man that she was pre-op and being a good person could have said, look "I don't want to have sex with you, but it was nice meeting you." Call a cab home. So many scenarios that could have taken place. Maybe, he would've had no problem with it at all- who knows? Or god forbid, worse could've happened to her. Sadly, it wouldn't have been the first time e.g. 'The Branden Tina Story'. However, it never got to that point, because she never wanted to have sex with him in the first place. It seems to me that she made it pretty damn clear that even making out with him was making her uncomfortable and she had drawn the line. He crossed that line. Since when does being confused about a stranger who is causing you no harm make it right to use violence and sexually assault someone and call it self-defense!? He's obviously a violent man who can't keep his hands to himself, and probably had it in him to do the exact same hateful thing to a biologically heterosexual female who told him NO one too many times. Maybe after a little time in an American prison he will learn some new English phrases like, "you're gonna be MY little bitch," or "Bend over" and then he will know what it truly feels like to be confused and terrified.
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